No, you’re not. I totally understand how you felt and sometime get depressed/stressed under certain situations. It is very natural.
This would be the never ending “war” if you don’t react. So stay tight and you need to keep telling your wife how you feel saying “I feel this *** because of ***”. Basically “I message”
If she really is in Christ, she would respect it and try to be more sincere/careful to the relationship in the marriage. And that’s the point you need to clearly make while you & your spouse are (specially) in the belief to the Christ. Sometimes people needs to realize what they’ve got in their life before losing it.